Why Smart Women Avoid Looking At Their Money

Your bank account has never judged you. So why does opening it feel like judgment day?

You can run a business, make six figures, negotiate contracts, sell your expertise, and make decisions involving thousands of dollars.

Yet opening your banking app to see exactly how much money you have?

Suddenly, reorganizing your underwear drawer sounds like an excellent use of your time. 😉

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There are plenty of women entrepreneurs who love making money but feel considerably less enthusiastic about looking at their numbers.

I’m not talking about whether you understand a profit and loss statement or know how to read a balance sheet. I’m talking about the simple act of looking at your money.

Your bank balance. Your savings. Your credit card debt. How much you actually paid yourself last month.

Since when did opening your banking app require so much courage?

The number in your bank account is one thing. What you believe that number says about you is something else entirely.

Your Bank Balance Has Never Had An Opinion About You

Imagine opening your banking app and seeing $8,427. That’s the number. But your money story has plenty to say about it.

I should have more money than this.
After everything I’ve earned, how is that all I have?
I’m never going to get ahead.

Within seconds, you’ve gone from checking your bank balance to questioning your financial future.

And the bank hasn’t said a word.

This is one of the most revealing things about your money story. It assigns meaning to your numbers, often before you’ve had a chance to consider what those numbers actually tell you.

Two women can look at the same bank balance and have completely different reactions. One feels pleased with what she’s accumulated. The other feels disappointed that she hasn’t accumulated more.

Same number. Different money stories.

Knowing your numbers is a money habit. How you feel about those numbers is part of your money story.

Avoidance Has Its Rewards

There’s a reason avoiding your numbers can become such a familiar habit. It gives you immediate relief.

You don’t have to experience the disappointment of seeing less money than you expected. You don’t have to confront a credit card balance that’s grown.

You don’t have to wonder why your business generated revenue but you paid yourself so little.

You can get on with your day, blissfully unaware of the number you’ve decided you don’t want to know.

Of course, your money doesn’t stop doing what it’s doing simply because you’ve stopped looking.

Your expenses continue. Your debt remains. Your savings stay exactly where they are until you do something to change them.

Here’s the tricky thing about avoidance: the longer you go without looking, the more emotionally loaded looking can become.

What began as putting off a five-minute task can turn into weeks of imagining what you’ll discover. Your imagination is perfectly willing to fill in the blanks, and it isn’t necessarily generous.

Women Have Enough Things To Be Judged On

For generations, women have been subjected to expectations about being good, responsible, sensible, and careful with money.

Spend too much and you’re irresponsible. Want too much and you’re greedy. Make a mistake and apparently you should have known better.

Women can end up bringing those same judgments into every encounter with their own money. Plus, those messages don’t automatically disappear when you become an entrepreneur.

You can be making more money than you’ve ever made and still hear an old belief telling you what your bank balance says about you.

Your numbers are information about your money. They are not a verdict on YOU.

A lower-than-expected balance deserves your attention, absolutely. But it doesn’t require you to turn against yourself.

You can be disappointed with a money result and still approach it with curiosity, clarity, and the expectation that you can create a different result.

Let’s Look At Your Money

Here’s a simple exercise. Open your banking app and look at your current bank balance.

Before you start explaining the number, criticizing yourself, or mentally calculating everything that’s coming due, give yourself a moment to recognize what you’re feeling. Your bank balance isn’t asking for a character assessment.

Then ask yourself: What am I making this number mean about me?

Be specific. Your answer will reveal something important about your money story.

Then ask: What is the actual number, without any judgment attached to it?

One question reveals the beliefs and emotions you’ve attached to your money. The other brings you back to the facts, where you can begin making intentional choices.

You don’t have to wait until your bank balance reaches a certain amount to become a woman who knows her numbers. You can begin today, with the money you have.

Your money story doesn’t get to decide whether you look. You do.

Looking at your numbers is an important money habit. Changing the beliefs and identity behind your money habits is how you create a whole new experience of making, keeping, and having money.

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